I recently received a question from a reader:
I would like to see you write about how to help children who are having psychic experiences. My daughter sees spirits and she is very frightened by what she sees. She asks why she is seeing “scary” people instead of “nice” people and I am unsure how to help her. – Sallie
I often get people asking me about dealing with children who have psychic experiences. In the past, I would shy away from responding since I don’t have children of my own and so clearly I don’t have any first-hand experience with psychic kids.
Then, after getting about the 50th request to write about this, I decided to write about it anyway, since I do remember what it is like to be a psychic child.
In this article, I’m going to talk about my childhood experiences and then give some tips for dealing with children who can see or sense spirits, based on what I experienced.
Seeing a Spirit
When I was about 5 years old, I saw a spirit and it freaked me out big time. It was quite late at night, and I was sleeping in the study, as my bedroom was being redecorated. I was playing in my bed and when I looked up, I saw a woman standing in the corner of my bedroom. She was dressed in a style that was of the turn of the century and I still remember exactly what her silhouette looked like (I grew up in a house that was built around the end of the nineteenth century).
I remember my heart beating so fast I thought it would burst. I put the covers over my head and wished for her to go away – I was so frightened. I must have fallen asleep eventually.
I am fairly certain she was an earthbound spirit (a soul who has died but not crossed over) although at the time I didn’t know who she was. I just knew she wasn’t a real person.
I told my mother about it in the morning and I remember her really paying attention to me and seeming worried. My mum has a very scientific background so I’m not sure what was going through her mind at that point when I told her what I saw.
I remember her telling me that I had seen the tooth fairy (I had a tooth under my pillow that night).
But being very sensitive, I picked up on her worry and concern and the situation seemed serious to me somehow. Plus I was confused as to why the tooth fairy was so scary and not like I had imagined her at all. If my mother was worried, I felt, then I should be scared too.
(Incidentally, this is when my fear of spirits really took root, to the extent that it was the biggest hurdle for me to overcome when I started to explore intuitive development. I shut down my clairvoyance big time and for a long time I didn’t want to become a professional intuitive because I was too scared, even though I knew it was my path.)
Anyway, having been on the receiving end of a fib about the tooth fairy, and the confusion it created, my advice would be to tell the truth and try not to convey any worries you are having about the situation. It will just make your child feel that there is something wrong. After all, if your child is ‘seeing things’, the chances are he/she might be an empath too and if she is, she will definitely pick up on your anxiety.
What if you can’t explain this topic to your child because you don’t know anything about spirits? Here’s a quick run down of the facts, according to my knowledge and experience:
The Reality of ‘Ghosts’
There are lost spirits walking this planet. I’ve been clearing them from auras and properties for several years now. You could call them earthbound spirits, ghosts, whatever. These spirits are lost because they don’t want to cross over to the other side for whatever reason – it could be a physical addiction (i.e. an alcoholic who can’t bear to be on a plane where there is no alcohol.) It could be unfinished business for the earthbound spirit, that is keeping him/her on the earth plane, or a strong attachment to a loved one (i.e. the spirit is waiting for a loved one so they can cross over together – that is a more unusual scenario in my experience.) They cross over eventually.
Sometimes these spirits are seen or sensed. People who are doing intuitive development can sometimes get excited when they get in contact with a spirit, and begin to channel it, just because they can. That’s a very bad move, unless you want to channel a spirit of a very low vibration. Instead, we want to channel Spirit Guides and those spirits who are MEANT to assist us – not these lost spirits.
So, that’s the reality of the situation. I feel it is a good thing to be able to educate your child about spirits before other people or Hollywood does:
Hollywood’s Portrayal of Spirits
In movies, spirits are evil and scary. They come to torment us or just to frighten us. They can do weird things, like throw objects around the room. They are creepy.
Unfortunately, the way spirits are portrayed in movies is downright disturbing and it bears so little resemblance to reality that it’s laughable. Just because people think spirits are fearsome and scary doesn’t mean they are. And when we see them, we might see them as scary, simply because we have been conditioned to see them that way.
Another reason why we might see lost spirits as scary is because they hang out in a very low vibration (stuckness and unhappiness.) Coming into contact with that vibration can feel unpleasant, but it does not mean that the lost spirit is fearsome.
So I would say, take the chance to educate your child on what she is seeing, before popular culture does and she becomes even more scared.
Here are some tips for what I would personally do if I were a parent of a psychic child:
1. Don’t encourage your child to interact with or make a friend of spirits
I have heard of some parents who encourage the child to talk to the lost spirit, as if it’s some long lost ancestor. I personally wouldn’t encourage that. I feel that there is really no place for the lost spirit, in a child’s room or around your child. There is a place for guardian angels and Spirit Guides, but not for lost spirits.
2. Explain to your child what she is seeing
Yes, this probably involves explaining what happens when we die if you have not already (I personally think that heaven is a nice concept). You could explain that some souls do not want to go to heaven straight away and instead wait around for someone they loved – and occasionally they get lost and go where they shouldn’t. I personally wouldn’t make up a lie because your child will sense it, and will be confused. And confusion can breed fear.
3. Make spirits seem less scary
I remember when I was little I was very scared of spiders. For some reason, I became less scared of them when my father explained that spiders are more scared of us than we are of them – they seemed less fearsome once I knew that.
When I clear these lost spirits from locations and auras, they do sometimes seem pretty terrified. So you could tell your child that usually spirits are as scared of us as we are of them. Plus we, as humans, have all the power. Lost spirits are pretty much powerless. They can’t do anything to hurt us. I also remember my father once saying to me ‘it’s not the dead who can hurt us’ (i.e. the dead are not to be feared.)
4. Don’t make it ‘weird’ or ‘worrying’
Try to make it as normal as possible, but you could also touch on the fact that it’s not OK to talk about it to just anyone, because some people can’t see the spirits and will think you’re making it up!
Hopefully, these tips should make the experience of sensing or seeing a spirit less traumatic for your child. But if they don’t, here’s a final tip:
Remind your child that she in control
You can let your child know that it is possible to ask a spirit to leave their space. It is also possible to call on an angel to come and take the lost spirit away. If your child sees spirits in her bedroom at night, place a little angel symbol somewhere for her to hold if she gets scared. Teach her a simple prayer such as ‘Archangel Michael, come and take away this lost spirit’. Remind her that she has angels who look after her and who can remove the lost spirits.
Hopefully, this article is helpful for parents out there who have been through this with their child. If you have some experience in this area, feel free to present other ideas or suggestions in the comments section below.