If I can’t have too many truffles, I’ll do without truffles.
~ Sidonie-Gabrielle Colette
One of the things that has been a challenge for me in my life is that I have little sense of moderation. I work too hard, care too much, stay up too late, push too hard, and give too much.
So when I had an Akashic Record Reading 13 years ago, it wasn’t surprising to me that my life lesson for this lifetime is moderation – I am here to learn about taking “the middle path.”
Your Soul’s Purpose
I usually talk about life purpose in the context of soul gifts and your life’s work, but there is another aspect of the soul’s purpose, which is about learning. We are all here to learn.
I believe that before we incarnate, we decide what we will learn as part of the upcoming incarnation based on our current strengths. All souls have specialties and areas of strength but every strength has a downside. For example, if on the soul level you have a gift for seeing what can be improved in any given situation or system, and you’re very conscientious about improving yourself, your challenge is likely to be self-acceptance and surrendering to the way things are.
Another example: if you have a soul gift that means that you are here to see the good in other people, you may have a tendency to be naive.
So, before we incarnate, based on our strengths and challenges, we choose one primary life lesson and several secondary life lessons.
You usually spend several lifetimes learning one primary life lesson, and when you’re done learning your primary life lesson, one of your secondary life lessons becomes your primary life lesson.
The life lesson you choose affects the events that show up during the course of your lifetime. It also affects the family that you choose to be born into, and the relationships that you choose. The life lesson is like the thread that underlies your experiences in any given lifetime.
I believe that we select our family of origin mainly based on what we need to learn as souls. If you had a negative experience with your family of origin, one of the simplest ways to find out what your primary life lesson is likely to be, is to think about what you learned through the experience of growing up in your family. For example, if you had very controlling or overbearing parents, you could have been learning about self-determination and sovereignty, i.e., the importance of directing your own course and path through life.
If you had abusive parents, you may have been learning about self-worth and self-love. This is a common scenario. We often learn a lesson by experiencing the absence of it. If nobody instilled in you that you are worthy and loved, you end up having to do it for yourself, thus learning about self-worth and self-love in the process.
The most common life lessons I have seen during my readings include: surrender, self-worth, flexibility, possibility, moderation/balance, love, and authenticity.
The Body and Life lessons
You can also gain some insight into your life lessons by looking at the body and mind that your soul chose in this lifetime. I personally have a very active mind that never shuts up, I’m always thinking and have a lot of creative energy. The way my nervous system is wired helps me to learn my life lesson of moderation, because if I do not behave in a moderate way, the consequences for me can be even worse than they would be if I had a nervous system that behaved differently. Your body and your nervous system have been chosen specifically to help you learn your life lessons.
Secondary Life Lessons
You tend to learn your secondary life lessons at a slower pace than your primary life lesson. Some of my secondary life lessons include power, and faith.
Power is a life lesson that I have been learning gradually and steadily over many lifetimes. I have experienced having power over others and abusing it, and I have also been powerless.
The thing I love about this part of a reading is that life lessons are effortless- you do not have to “try” to learn your life lessons. You will naturally attract and choose experiences which help you to learn them anyway. Of course, it can help to know what they are because in knowing what your life lesson is, you can consciously bring more of that energy into what you do and how you behave, and then life becomes easier for you.
If you can also see the bad things that happen to you as an opportunity to learn your life lesson, this allows you to see life through a more positive lens. For example, at the moment I have an issue with repetitive strain injury (RS I). I am writing this article using voice recognition software because I am not able to type or use a mouse. This issue started when I was at university because I worked too hard. This injury teaches me about moderation when it does flare up. I personally believe the same can be said of all of the ailments and disasters which happen to us – they happen to teach us something.
Do you know your life lesson? Are you able to get a sense for what it might be, based on your family of origin and the events and people you have attracted so far?
PS. If you are interested in finding out more about life lessons and how you can read the Akashic records to find out information about life lessons and lots of other things too, you may be interested in my Akashic Record Reading Program, which can be found here. One of the most interesting applications of this knowledge is being able to find out what you are learning through any given circumstance or situation.