Would it be cool if I could write you an article in which I told you what the meaning of your life is?

I don’t know what the meaning of your life is. I know what the meaning of mine is, but only right now. The meaning of life changes for me every second. One year I think it’s to experience joy and the next I think it might be to save the world from itself.

The fact is that there is no meaning of life that someone can give you – a purpose given to you from on high. You with your free will get to choose what life means to you. I really believe that there is no right and no wrong answer.

Here’s what the meaning of life has been to me over the last several years:

#1: To be a lightworker and save the world from itself

At times over the last few years I have really believed that I am here to improve and have an influence in the world. Isn’t that kind of arrogant? Yes, now I think it is a very self-centred way of seeing the world. How can I possibly know what another human being truly needs? Only they can know and choose what they need through their own free will.

I have had a tendency sometimes to see life through a tragic lens. I know there are people starving and people dying and animals being maltreated and occasionally I feel guilty that I don’t spend my days trying to save the world. Is this just me? The truth is that I am a tiny grain of sand on a very big beach and I can’t save the world or hold the perspective that it needs saving.

The way I know that this is true is because it feels awful to me to think that I need to save people from their fate. If I get the opportunity to help someone around me, I will gladly. But I can only spread good vibes in my corner of the world. To aspire to do more than that feels bad to me, like being a little too selfless and self-sacrificing, and then I’d be resentful and spreading bad vibes.

And that is definitely not the meaning of life.

#2: To be incarnated in ‘Earth School’ in order to learn and evolve spiritually

Is the meaning of life to learn things, evolve and grow?

We pick a primary life lesson to work on over a period of two or three lifetimes. We work on it by attracting certain experiences which allow us to learn certain life lessons. For example, if your life lesson is authenticity – you attract negative and positive learning experiences which allow you to learn authenticity. For example, you could experience being inauthentic and not yourself.

Even though I talk about life lessons in my readings, I feel that Earth is a playground, not a school. I don’t feel we’re learning certain things in order to become bigger and better, spiritually. In my book, we are already everything we ever were. For me, it’s more about remembering certain things – re-learning them; being reminded of them.

Of course, you can only see life as a playground if you feel safe. Perhaps being reminded that I am safe and the world is kind is part of what I’m here to remember. Maybe it is what you’re here to remember too.

#3: To translate the true desires of your spirit into the physical world and experience your own magnificence as a spirit, here in the physical world

What do you really desire on a deep level? Success? Money? Love?

Abraham would say that you have desires because your spirit is all of those things and in the physical you want to keep up to speed with who you really are.

On a soul level, your spirit is huge and is everything – already successful, loving, free and abundant. So the meaning of your life here in the physical could be to take action to create those states in your 3D life. It’s about summoning those states that you are in the spiritual and creating them in the physical through accomplishments, through things in your real, every day life.

For example, I can translate the abundance of my spirit into dollars, into a beautiful meal for my family, into an abundance of affection that I give to people I love. I can translate that abundance into charity donations, into giving to others, into giving to myself, into anything that feels good to me.

Doesn’t it feel good to do that? Doesn’t it feel good to know that you are abundant and loving, not just in the spiritual, but you summoned that into your world and into the lives of others?

This is what you call creative self-expression.

Choosing fun and creative ways as a human being to express who you really are.

To do this, you have to be tapped into the essence of who you really are. You need to be OK with expressing it.

#4: To Learn and Evolve through Suffering

Isn’t it Buddhists who believe that life is about experiencing suffering so that you can transcend it?

I sometimes read for people who have this belief “what doesn’t kill me makes me stronger.” I used to have that belief too in a very unconscious way.

When I was a Christian, I used to believe that suffering did me good because during the times of suffering that I have experienced, I’ve grown massively as a person.

I remember when my parents split up when I was 21. I was really traditional, conservative; I believed in marriage and the family and I thought that my parents would never split up. So, my parents splitting up so suddenly and then divorcing tore me apart and shook my foundations of what I thought was important in life. I also spent the next six months or so looking after someone who was bereaved, and being empathic, I felt their grief all the time.

About six months later, when the pain ran out, out of that experience I had a new found confidence that I could face anything – strength.

So, in the past I have thought that life is partly about experiencing suffering. Now I think it’s about experiencing contrast – that’s to say, by experiencing the opposite of what feels good to you, you get clear on what it is that you really want to experience yourself as next. Out of suffering comes strength. Out of pain can come joy. That reminds me of the quote in the book The Prophet:

The deeper that sorrow carves into your being, the more joy you can contain.
Is not the cup that holds your wine the very cup that was burned in the potter’s oven?
And is not the lute that soothes your spirit, the very wood that was hollowed with knives?
When you are joyous, look deep into your heart and you shall find it is only that which has given you sorrow that is giving you joy.
Kahlil Gibran, The Prophet.

But I don’t believe you need to experience this kind of contrast if you don’t want to. I believe that you make the rules for how life is here on Earth. Which brings me to my next thought…

#5: To make your own rules and be fully in control of what happens in your life

My soul is a passionate dancer; she dances to hidden music which only I can hear… Whatever police the world may prescribe to rule the soul, I refuse to obey them Bettina Brentano.

The meaning of life for me right now: To move beyond everything that limits me, to create my own rules, discard all that doesn’t serve me, so that I can keep pushing the boundaries of joy, freedom and growth.

You could also call this exploring and pushing the frontiers of what you think is possible – moving beyond your own self-imposed limitations.

#6: To praise the Christian God and follow His path for you

This used to be the meaning of my life. But it didn’t feel that good to me. I thought that God wanted me to suffer, deprive and sacrifice myself. I felt guilty with every step I took in case it wasn’t what God wanted for me. I looked for a written invitation from God to do everything. I stayed stuck in the same places for a while.

So I dropped it. I still meet with God and Jesus. But when I do this time he gives me loving messages, like follow your own spirit. So now rather than following God, I follow the desires of my spirit and she takes me wherever we want to go. In fact, she holds me to ransom. If I don’t go with her, I cut myself off from feeling good. And feeling good is the meaning of life for me.

#7: To celebrate the beauty of being alive

Stroking my cat.

Dancing to a lovely piece of music.

Kissing my lover.

Walking on the wet grass.

Listening to the rain and watching a storm.

Biting into a piece of chocolate.

What’s the meaning of life to you right now? Is it making you happy?