So, you’re opening up your intuition. Maybe you have tried automatic writing, or dowsing, or some other way to connect with your Spirit Guides and Higher self.

You perhaps got some guidance, but your mind is protesting – maybe it thinks you got it wrong, or more general doubts come up around the process or your capabilities.

This situation reminds me of the quote:

“Keep an open mind, but not so open that your brains fall out.”

Sometimes when we’re developing intuitively it can feel scary and a bit out of control, because we are basically working with a faith-based aspect. Nobody gets into psychic development unless they believe in something that lies beyond our physical aspect. But developing intuitively takes courage and trust in the universe – we have to let go and experiment. And it’s asking a lot – especially of those people who have strong analytical/intellectual sides.

But what if it’s all wrong and in the end, we discover that our brains fell out?

As someone who has a strong intellect and an active mind, I could definitely relate to this fear in the first year that I learned to read the Akashic Records. I had invested a lot of energy and money into the endeavour and I was scared.

One night though, I reached a ‘point of no return’, when I realized I was on the right path, and I stopped doubting the process and my abilities so much. This realization came about when I was visited in the middle of the night by a deceased relative of my employer at the time. The deceased person told me specific things that there was no way I could have known. When I related them to my boss, it was shocking – both for him and for me. Luckily he believed in the afterlife and even if he hadn’t, I think that experience might have convinced him otherwise!

I also have some experience coaching students through this fear in my Intuitive Awakening program.

So here are some of my best tips to help you on your path of intuitive development if you are a doubting Thomas.

1. Don’t put so much pressure on yourself

Maybe you’re taking a class or you’ve bought a stack of books. Perhaps you signed up because you want help making decisions, or you want to create a specific result in your life.

However, for now it’s best to forget about your reasons for signing up. Forget how much energy or money you have sunk into the endeavour. Don’t think about what you’re going to gain or lose.

Instead, take the pressure off. Think: play, experimentation and non-attachment.

If you want to develop intuitively, you will need to give yourself time and space to ‘get it wrong’; to learn from mistakes and to improve. If you were learning to dance the tango, you wouldn’t expect to be a world-class dancer in 2 weeks. You need time to learn the steps and ideally you won’t be beating yourself up so much that you forget to have some fun in the learning process.

I remember one of my colleagues told me that when she was learning to develop psychically, when she was stuck and not able to pick up on anything, one of her teachers used to tell her to “guess” or “make it up”. Obviously, you do not want to do this in a reading for someone else, but when you’re a beginner who is learning and exploring your own questions, this can be an interesting strategy to try.

Here’s why: when you tell yourself to ‘make it up’ or ‘guess’, this playful, easy energy often frees your energy up so the guidance can come in.

2. Cultivate your dreaming ability

Dreaming is a great way to seek guidance if you have a strong analytical side that punches holes in your channeling attempts when you’re awake. When you’re dreaming, you’re obviously out for the count and completely bypassing the conscious mind. Plus, your strong analytical side can help you in decoding your dreams.

Remember that dreams are an incredibly powerful source of information from the spiritual realm. Dreaming as a spiritual gift has a long history in indigenous cultures. The word shaman in some Native American languages means ‘one who dreams’, and dreams from the strong dreamers in some indigenous tribes were considered spiritual guidance for the entire tribe.

Dreams can:

  • Give us guidance, warnings and encouragement
  • Show us any hidden or buried desires
  • Reveal past lives
  • Highlight areas that need to be healed
  • Connect us with our deceased loved ones, spiritual teachers, Spirit Guides, animal guides and ancestors

3. Ask for a sign, or even better, a ‘point-of-no-return experience’

In the book Psychic Development for Beginners, the author William Hewitt recommends that beginners ask Spirit for a sign that they are connected to Spirit and getting the right guidance. I remember reading this about ten years ago and asking Spirit to send me a bird sign. Shortly afterwards, a bird came and sat on my windowsill.

I continue to get bird signs. (Perhaps this is because my primary guide is called the ‘Raven’.) I get fantails following me around on my walks in the hills when I psychically connect with my deceased cat Big Boy, or when I’m thinking of him.

Since he died, fantails also try to fly into my house on a regular basis.

So I get a lot of bird signs, but your signs may be something different.

If you are having a lot of problems with doubt, you could also ask Spirit for a ‘point of no return’ experience – something that you cannot rationalize away, like my experience with the deceased relative of my employer’s.

4. Practise

The best way to build your confidence long term is to read for others, or try my intuitive experiments. When you’re reading for yourself, you are not getting any feedback to help you to grow in confidence, because you already know all about yourself. Reading for others helps you to get that objective feedback.

I hope this article is helpful for someone!

Do you relate to this issue? Please post in the comments below.