In this article, I want to answer a really common question I get about cutting cords. The answer to this question can actually give us some insight into how we learn and evolve as souls.
But first of all, for those readers who are new to this – what are energy cords?
An energy cord is a structure that links you to another person. We all form two of these cords with people who play a big part in our lives.
The first type of cord is a spiritual bond that exists between you and the other person. This contains all the affection, good feelings and love that are there in the relationship, past and present. We cannot cut this cord, nor would we want to.
By contrast, the second cord is a negative cord which contains energetic echoes of the negative aspects of the relationship. This cord can contain anything difficult that was a feature of this relationship: rejection, disappointment, hurt, craving, loss, anger, frustration, etc.
The negative aspects of that energy cord can enter your aura and affect you in your life and in your other relationships.
I’ll give you an example. Let’s say that you had a partner who cheated on you. This affected you in all kinds of negative ways. Ever since then, you’ve felt more vulnerable and less secure, and you bring that vulnerability into your current relationship. That vulnerability exists not just emotionally, or psychologically – it also has an energetic component which can haunt you too, in the form of the energy cord.
So that’s one example.
Not all negative cords that we form will be significant ones – some will be minor ones that don’t affect us much. Large cords tend to be formed with our parents, spouse/partner, children, close friends, and any relationship that has had a strong negative ‘flavour’ to it.
Some examples include:
- The supervisor who bullied you until you quit
- The person who assaulted you
- Your first boyfriend who broke your heart
So now that I’ve defined energy cords, I want to answer a common question that people have:
Why do we form these cords in the first place?
As human and spiritual beings, we evolve through both positive and negative learning experiences. It is impossible to have a life which only includes good aspects. If you want that, you incarnated on the wrong planet 😉
The positive cannot exist without the negative, and that is why we always have two cords that form – a positive one and a negative one. It is through the contrasts that we learn and experience life.
The deeper that sorrow carves into your being, the more joy you can contain.
Is not the cup that holds your wine the very cup that was burned in the potter’s oven?
And is not the lute that soothes your spirit, the very wood that was hollowed with knives?
When you are joyous, look deep into your heart and you shall find it is only that which has given you sorrow that is giving you joy.
So, it’s all about the contrast.
But it’s also about growth…
Every difficult experience that we go through here offers us two paths to choose from:
Expansion or contraction.
For example: when we go through loss, it can cause us to close down our hearts in pain and fear. Or if we heal from it, it can motivate us to love more fully and unabashedly. (Because the ones we love may not be there tomorrow.)
When we feel anger, we can either bottle it up, or we can use it as fuel to stand up for ourselves and speak up.
When we are rejected, we can either close ourselves off, or we can continue to risk our hearts and live with courage. We can choose to extend the invitation, ask for the date, or apply for the job.
We all contract sometimes on our journey through life, and this has a lot to do with painful past experiences.
And for this reason, it can be a good thing to cut the cords, so that in spite of our past negative experiences, we can be less affected by the negative baggage we were carrying.
Do cords re-attach after they are cut?
My sessions are permanent healings and the cord does not ‘re-attach’ after we’re done.
If you’re cutting cords and finding they’re re-attaching, then you’re not cutting cords, you’re cutting psychic ties instead. To cut a cord properly, you must process the life lessons contained within it and get some insight around the relationship.
What kind of results can a person expect from cutting a cord?
I never know exactly how the healing will manifest – every cord is different. But I have got a lot out of this type of healing (I’ve cut 35+ cords) and many of my clients are repeat clients who cut a few/several cords initially, and then come back periodically as needed. Lots of them have told me they feel lighter after a session, and get a sense of closure that they somehow could not get from more conventional ways of healing, such as psychotherapy.
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