When I was at University studying French, I had to read a really boring book called Candide by Voltaire, a French author from the eighteenth century.

The character of this book, a rather annoying chap called Candide strikes you as the type who is taking too many happy pills. His mantra is: “All is for the best in the best of all possible worlds” (everything always happens for the best!) He is basically one of those people who always sees the good in everything. But even earthquakes, death and wars he thought were all for the best.

He was a bit of a Pollyanna.  And Voltaire didn’t like pollyannas. So in the story, he breaks Candide.

Candide begins the story in a paradise, sheltered from the world. But during the story, the author makes Candide come out of paradise and he starts living a normal life, with struggle, pain and disappointment.  By the end of the story, his mantra is no longer “All is for the best in the best of all possible worlds“. Instead, his worldview has become: “We must cultivate our garden”.

I.e. instead of being a blissed-out Pollyanna and accepting what God sends us and thinking all of it is good, Candide now reckons that realistically, one should take control and change things.

Even though the book (and most books I had to read at University) were a real chore to read, I always remember it, because as I was reading it, I was quite embarrassed to realize that my worldview is like Candide’s, at least the worldview he has before he gets disappointed by life.

But thankfully, it’s not just me who has this worldview. A bunch of other people’s Spirit Guides seem to think like Candide too (I know because I talk to lots of them in readings).

And religious people.

When I was a Christian, I was taught about an angry God, one who punishes people, who sends experiences to us for us to endure them, FOR OUR OWN GOOD. Ouch. I decided not to run with that for too long because at the time God sounded to me like a bit of a git.

So instead of believing that God sends me experiences to teach me a lesson and suffer, I replaced that with the spiritual person’s worldview – me sending me experiences to make my life better and to help me to expand in the long-run.

At one of my low points, my guides told me that:

“You, in your great wisdom, always send yourself the most loving experiences possible.”

I’ve had jobs where I felt I was undervalued and paid about ten euros an hour when I had a mountain of student debt of about 40,000 euros to pay off…wasn’t life taking the piss? Yet, I now see that each one led me to here, perfectly and contributed something that I needed to know or learn in order to get here.

I’ve had abusive relationships where I undervalued who I am and allowed people to treat me like crap. But I now understand the importance of boundaries, being the authority in my life and all my relationships generally don’t suck now.

So, if you book a reading with me, I might tell you that the bad stuff is happening because you’re…learning to trust yourself and your perceptions/learning to see your worth/learning to take control of your own life path/learning to stand up for yourself, etc etc and that might satisfy your mind for a while.

But I think there is nothing bad or painful about any event, apart from the meaning your mind ascribes to it.

And your mind ultimately ascribes meaning to everything. It can tell you that your husband should not have left you. It can then tell you that actually, it was good that your husband left you because now you’ve met someone else who’s more compatible with you. The mind can keep on going forever debating whether something was good or not as your life changes.

Or you could just skip all that and go with “I am in control of my life – on a superficial and deep level.” “I am good”. “I send myself the best experiences I could possibly send me, even if they feel awful at the time”. “I am creative, life has twists and turns and things will turn out better than I could have imagined or expected.” Doesn’t that feel so much better? In the end, I only believe in feeling good, and those are the best-feeling thoughts I can find in such circumstances.

What about you?

Do you see the Universe as benevolent?

Do you have any inspiring stories of blessings in disguise?

Is there some difficulty that you’re going through right now?  Can you trust that the outcome of it might be better than what you had, were, or did before?

Love from,

Candide x