A few years ago, on an afternoon in January, I had an amazing spiritual experience that I still think about on a regular basis.

That afternoon, I lay down on my bed for a nap with my cat. I went to sleep and had a dream or an ‘astral projection’ experience (I am not sure which.) I dreamt that I asked a higher being what it felt like to die, and I was granted permission to experience it.

Here was my experience:

First of all, my soul shot out of my body through my heart chakra and it felt amazing – I felt immense joy and bliss. It was as if my body was like a heavy, old coat that I had been wearing for a while and was quite happy to take off. I slipped out of it joyfully and left it discarded on the floor.

And there was an invisible trajectory above me in the sky – I couldn’t see it but I knew it was there. I was flying. I was above my house and I wanted to continue on because it felt so good. But I knew I shouldn’t. I saw my cat sleeping on the bed and thought about what I wanted to achieve in this lifetime and I knew I had to stop. And straight away I was back in my body and I woke up. It was exhilarating, but scary too – it felt like flying too close to the wind.

I didn’t realize it at the time, but this experience was a very significant one for me, which would anchor me more deeply into the following beliefs:

  • Death is not something to be feared
  • We came from Spirit, many of us having many incarnations before this one – this lifetime is just one step on the journey
  • And we will go back to Spirit when we die

Whenever I feel bogged down by the details of everyday life and this wider perspective fades from my awareness, the memory of that experience brings me back to it in a heartbeat. And I need to be reminded of that perspective sometimes.

Day to day life can leave us all feeling a bit bogged down at times. We can forget to see the bigger picture. We can get lost in a valley full of trees and all we see is tree trunks, where everything starts to look the same. We need to rise up to the mountains and get a bird eye’s view of the forest.

Cultivating a spiritual connection is essentially about tapping back in to that perspective. It is about reminding ourselves of who we are, where we came from and where we will go at the end of this life. It is a true north that helps us to understand ourselves, our path and our life better.

Are you feeling a lack of spiritual connection in your life? Or do you want to develop yours further?

Here are some of my ideas to cultivate that spiritual connection and perspective…

Read About Other Peoples’ Spiritual Experiences

(Especially in the areas of past lives or near death experiences.)

An excellent book in this category is Proof of Heaven by Eben Alexander. Alexander is a previously sceptical neurosurgeon who became very ill with meningitis and went into a coma. Whilst in the coma, he had the most amazing spiritual experiences that caused him to believe in the afterlife – experiences he felt constituted ‘proof of heaven’. I won’t give away too much of what happens in the book (for those who haven’t read it) but suffice to say it is a riveting read.

Another very interesting book which relates the author’s experience of an NDE is Dying To Be Me by Anita Moorjani.

Let’s look at some other ways to deepen a spiritual connection and perspective:

Talk to Your Guides

Even if you’re intuitive and can channel you’ll go through phases with your guides, where you feel inspired and you get lots of input from them, and then other times when you are the one who has to start the dialogue and do more of the talking.

If you can’t channel your guides/angels/Higher self, start the dialogue anyway. One day you may find they talk back.

You can also take an intuitive development course to learn how to do this, such as my Intuitive Awakening Course.

Spend Time in Nature

I feel it is often easier to feel and hear from Spirit when I’m in a secluded, natural setting and I know I am not the only one. There is less ‘energetic noise’ than in a city. When I go into a forest or visit a beach, I feel like the beautiful, natural environment puts its arms around me, cleanses my auric field, and takes away any stress. I feel at one with Spirit and the earth.

Touch trees or get your bare feet on the ground where possible, to get the most benefit.

Ocean Beach, Whangarei, NZ.

Serve Others in a Spiritual Capacity

Give healing sessions or learn to give readings to get a boost of spiritual energy in your life.

One of the things I love about doing sessions is hanging out in that spiritual space. Going into the Akashic Records, or calling on an Archangel or an Ascended Master for a healing session, and bathing in those lovely, high vibrational energies for a while.

And when you do it often enough, those lovely, high vibrations become one of the energies that form the backdrop of your life.

Working with others in a spiritual capacity can connect you to Spirit and raise your vibration.

If you are interested in working with others in a spiritual capacity, check out my professional courses which teach you how to do readings.

Do a Life Between Lives Regression

A life between lives regression involves being regressed via hypnotherapy to the afterlife and getting insights about your life lessons and soul’s plans for incarnating into this life.

A few years ago, I had a life between lives regression and it really echoed the dream I had about dying – I felt a sense of bliss in the afterlife and I wanted to stay in that space for as long as I could.

You can read more about my life between lives session here.

Get an Akashic Record Reading

For those who have not heard of the Akashic Records, they are an energetic ‘place’ that exists in the ether; a place that holds the history of every soul in existence.

By having your Akashic Record read, you can find out about your past lives, your soul gifts, where your soul was birthed and spent its formative incarnations, and what you have been doing between lifetimes.

Shelly is our resident Akashic Record reader (trained by me) and she gets some lovely feedback from clients:

“Before Shelly’s reading of my Akashic record, I considered myself a highly functioning crazy person. Now, 57 years into this lifetime, I can actually see the method behind the apparent madness and how the moving pieces (Primary energy center, Soul group of origin, my Soul trainings, Spiritual affiliations across lifetimes, Primary Life Lessons & unique Soul gifts/abilities) all fit together in a way that truly seems purposeful and Divine.

Armed with this knowledge, I can now understand why the childhood that had always seemed so depressing and unfortunate, made me strong in the areas I was destined in this lifetime to gain strength in.

I highly recommend Shelly’s Akashic readings… It’s like being provided an accurate, complete and concise map of your soul in this lifetime, which will save you a LOT of energy that you may have used just wondering why things are happening/not happening the way you “thought” they should.

I learned more about myself (and my fellow human beings) in the hour with Shelly than I had from dozens of books, webinars and audiotapes over the years.

Thank you Shelly!” ~ Deirdre S

You can book a reading with Shelly here.


I hope these suggestions are helpful. Now I want to hear from you:

How do you connect to Spirit when you feel bogged down with daily life?