One month ago, I launched a new coaching program, where I coach people to connect to their Spirit Guides and hear their intuition.

A dozen people enrolled on this course and I am having such a blast teaching them.  Well, actually I am not teaching them.  For this course, I am channeling the lessons and homework from their Spirit Guides and passing it on to the students.

First of all, it is so interesting to see how everyone’s Spirit Guides teach differently.  They just know where everyone’s strengths and blockages lie, so the lessons seem to get to the heart of the matter quite quickly.

And often, it has required a lot of trust and non-attachment on my part channeling lessons and homework from other people’s Spirit Guides – because sometimes I don’t see how the homework is going to help the student until AFTER they’ve done it.

So this program has been a big growth process so far for both me and the students, and I must say how fun it is to work with people one-on-one continuously – I love it!

What I’ve Learned so Far…

I thought I knew quite a bit about psychic development before I started this program.  (I’ve been reading about psychic development and experimenting with it for more than ten years.)  But this program has really expanded my understanding of how our Spirit Guides and Higher selves communicate with us.

So, in this blog post, I will share several insights that I’ve heard repeatedly from everyone’s Spirit Guides over the last few weeks.  I figured that if different Spirit Guides keep banging on about the same things to different people it’s worth repeating on my blog.

I hope this article gives you some useful ideas to enlist the help of your guides if you haven’t already. If you’re new to working with your Spirit Guides, you might also want to read this article which is an introduction: ‘What Are Spirit Guides & How to Work With Them.’

Insight #1: Your Spirit Guides are as good as unemployed if you don’t know what you want help with.

Your Spirit Guides can help you get from A to B, in alignment with your soul’s highest path and purpose – that’s their job.  On the other hand, it’s YOUR job to decide what you want from your life, set the intentions, and ask for help, guidance and impulses.

Spirit Guides keep saying to me that their help regularly goes unused because people often don’t know what they want in their life, or they’re not admitting it to themselves.

So they go around with hazy, wishy-washy, half-formed intentions and expect their guides to sort of help and intervene in some way. But how can your Spirit Guides intervene when you aren’t even clear on what you want help with?

No Spirit Guide on this program so far has told anyone what they want (or done anything they weren’t asked to do) even though I’m sure it would be easier for us if we were just told what we want out of life.  The thing is, the Spirit Guides need you to work out that bit for yourself by trying things on for size, energetically.  They may also help you with hints and shoves in the right direction, but ultimately you have to figure out experientially, what you want.

So, it definitely seems that most Spirit Guides like clear intentions and even goals to work with.  Tell them what you want.  Write it down, write them a letter; ask for help.

You don’t need to know how you are going to get or have what you want.  That’s not even your job.  Your job, according to them, is to allow yourself to want what you really want in your heart and focus on the WHAT, not on the HOW.

They will help with the how if you put out the clear intention for the what. But if you don’t get clear on the what, the how won’t ever come about.

How you can get clear on what you want

One of my students was told to design his ideal life – including his career, relationships, and the details of his daily life.  His guides told him to make a chart with three columns – things he’d like to discard and get rid of altogether about his current life, things he’d like to introduce and things he’d like to keep.  I don’t know if this person is necessarily going to transform his life overnight (or maybe he will, who knows!), but I’m sure this exercise has given him some clarity on what he wants his Spirit Guides to help him transform – including what he’s moving away from and what he wants to move towards.

This exercise is a good one to use for getting clear on what you want, if you can come to it with an element of playfulness and fun.  After all, if you change your mind, it’s no big deal.

Insight #2: You will be getting guidance – it’s just that some of your intuitive insights might be going unnoticed because they come as thoughts.

Kind of unhelpful, huh?

One thing that Spirit Guides keep saying is that intuitive guidance, insights and impulses get missed often and so it helps to become more observant and perceptive when it comes to your own thoughts.  Intuitive guidance can be really subtle. That’s fair enough. I mean, if it knocked us over the head really hard once every two minutes then that’d be no fun and we’d feel obliged to follow it.  You’d be like a slave to your Spirit Guides.  And then you’d have a get-outta-my-head-and-stop-trying-to-control-me revolution where you rebel against it and everything would go to hell.

RIP, Greenie…

I had a moment this weekend when I had intuitive guidance that I didn’t realize was intuitive guidance.  My mum accidentally killed our budgie and I could have prevented it but I didn’t recognize my intuition for what it was.

On Saturday afternoon, we still had two live budgies – Whitey and Greenie – and my mum was in the habit of feeding them dandelion leaves and eucalyptus leaves because apparently it makes them want to have baby budgies.  (She likes breeding things for some reason…maybe because she grew up on a farm!)  But on Saturday, she also threw in some other weed in for good measure and the male budgie ate some and within a few hours was staggering around on the floor of the cage, and then died.

Actually, she killed the last one that way too without realizing what it was that killed it.  (So, if you have a budgie and you want it to breed, please overcome the urge to feed your budgie weeds – take it from me, most weeds are not a budgie aphrodisiac.)

Anyway, just as I saw her pull up the weed, the words formed in my head ‘you’re going to poison them!’ but I didn’t say it and it felt more like a joke than a warning, probably because me and my mum are always joking anyway.  I failed to save the budgie, because I didn’t pay attention to my thought, which I thought was just a throwaway joke!

So that Whitey doesn’t get lonely, we got a new budgie we called Bertie who doesn’t make any noise, probably because the other budgie has terrified him by telling him what happened to her last two mates. Check him out. He’s the green one.


He hasn’t really got the hang of mirrors 🙂 Speaking of which…

Insight #3: Intuitive feedback doesn’t just come from Spirit Guides, it’s in everything…

Peoples’ Spirit Guides are frequently pointing out to them that the whole world is just a big (yes, you guessed it!) MIRROR that reflects your inner being back to you.  We can see a whole lot just by reading what is occurring around us – the people we’re attracting, the way our body feels, the physical clutter or space around us and how we feel emotionally are all intuitive feedback.  Our desires are perhaps the most important intuitive feedback of all.

Look at the symbols which crop up in your life…

If your ears hurt, what hurts for you to hear right now? If your roof is leaking, what is leaking in your life?  (maybe your emotions are suppressed and trying to get out.)  If you lost something, why did it happen? Do you even need it?  If your mum accidentally kills two male budgies in a row, what the heck does that mean?

Basically, what is everything showing you?  If you can approach life with an attitude of ‘everything happens for a reason and in perfect timing’, then you can live an intuitive life that flows and you can see intuitive feedback in everything.

Insight #4: Feel free to get it wrong once in a while

Many of the people on this program worry about ‘getting it wrong’ and imagining things.

How do we tell intuition from imagination?

In my experience, the most powerful indicator of real intuition is a ‘feeling’ – an energetic signature – that accompanies real intuition.  It’s like a feeling of certainty and excitement that tells you that your insight or impulse is ‘spot on’.  What if you don’t get that? The Spirit Guides tell me that in the beginning, while you’re learning, that energetic signature is not very strong.  You develop it by getting things right and getting things wrong.

That’s right – you might need to get it wrong once in a while.

Some people’s Spirit Guides have even given them exercises to read people and asked the student to come up with wrong answers.  They want the student to see what it feels like to be totally, utterly “off” and wrong.  And then sometimes the student gets insightful stuff that accompanies the ‘wrong’ information and she can feel the difference clearly between information is totally, way “off” and information that’s actually true.

The guides told me that if you never get wrong information as a psychic, you’d never improve your level of accuracy.

Insight #5: Invite your Spirit Guides into your dream and ask specific questions.

Contacting your Spirit Guides is easy in a dream because you are in a non-physical state while you’re in the astrals, dreaming. And if you want to try receiving intuitive guidance through dreams, the Spirit Guides have given this tip to one student:

  • Write a question on a post it note and leave it next to your bed.
  • Ask your Spirit Guides to send you a dream that answers the question just before you wake up.
  • When you wake, make sure you explore the metaphors and messages within the dream by journaling about it soon after – this is one half of the process.  The guides say that many messages can only be revealed upon reflection and journaling, or by discussing it with a friend and getting their interpretation on the dream.

The interesting thing with this exercise is that instead of answering your question, the Spirit Guides may instead give you information they think is more important than your question! They do that, the gits.

If you’re working on communicating with your Spirit Guides, I hope you found some of these tips useful.

Please share your comments below!

(Please note that the coaching program mentioned at the beginning of the article is no longer available in the exact format I described but has been ‘reincarnated’ as the Intuitive Awakening Course.)